Week 3 Lisa’s Journey: Keeping it Real
Updated: Aug 6
TO LOSE WEIGHT YOU NEED TO STOP LYING TO YOURSELF!
This week in my reflection, I wanted to get a bit more real - yep let’s face it, brutally honest sort real!
As I am travelling this road of complete lifestyle transformation with you all - I do believe that gives me certain shared insights and liberties that a mainstream coach and mentor Just acting as your cheer squad alone would have.
You see I am going through this journey with you - experiencing the highs, the lows and everything in between as well - you are not alone.
The thing that I feel is most critical about this is the ability for me to allow myself to be completely vulnerable, and my hope is that as a result of that vulnerability we can all give ourselves permission to step into a very different zone of transformation - one that is real, raw, vulnerable and scary.
A journey that exposes all of those things that have been holding you back for so long and feel free of shame, self-destructive behaviour, addictive behaviours and self-soothing To move us all forward into positivity.
So this week for my reflection of my week, I want to dig deep into yours and my deep why for achieving this goal of mine. How to break down the barriers that you see so success can be your only outcome, and having realistic not unrealistic expectations of ourselves as humans.
I am very proud of my progress thus far 9.3kg lost, increasing fitness and energy - prioritising self and learning that it is ok not to be perfect! All big life lessons.
So I want to share with you now what I believe MUST underpin ANY successful lifestyle change!
So proud of you all, and Thank you for all of your support.
Keeping It Real
There are as many ways to lose weight as there are calories on the McDonalds menu. The reality is that anything that creates a caloric deficit is going to lead to weight loss. Any diet and/or fitness regimen that has you burning more calories than you consume = you, weighing less.
So, eat less, move more, right?
God, I hate that phrase.
Saying “eat less, move more” to an overweight person is like saying “spend less, earn more” to someone living in crushing poverty. Granted, losing weight does require you to consume fewer calories and add physical activity, but learning how to integrate this into your life can’t be boiled down to a sound bite.
There are myriad strategies for consuming fewer calories and engaging in more physical activity, but they won’t work if you don’t stop lying about this one thing.
What is this one thing? Hang on a bit longer. I want to provide some context.
A 1995 report in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition entitled ”TheCalorie Myth Measurement and Reality” determined that “our results and those of many other research groups suggest that the population as a whole underestimates energy intake by self-report and that the degree of underestimation is severe in selected subject groups.”
Beyond this, human energetics professor Klaas Westerterp reported in the 2000 edition of Physical Activity and Obesity that people with obesity were not only more prone to underestimate caloric intake, but they also were more likely to overestimate their physical activity.
Multiple studies have shown that, in obesity, there is a consistent problem with believing you are consuming fewer calories than you actually are, as well as thinking that you’re moving more than is reflected in reality.
But maybe it’s just all your metabolism’s fault.
Let’s think about a fictitious character called Debbie who underwent participation in a research study and reported that:
“I’ve been big all my life.” She says she eats a healthy diet and stays active, and explains her weight by saying, “I believe I must be one of those people who has a slow metabolism.”
She says she is “eating well, doing lots of exercise,” so it must be her metabolism, right?
Her metabolic rate is tested .
A perfectly normal metabolic rate for someone of her size. “Almost spot on” was the term used. So why does Debbie have obesity?
Why can’t she lose weight? (Note: there are medical conditions that can affect weight gain such as hypothyroidism and Cushing’s syndrome. Medication can also be a culprit.)
The researchers got her to keep a food diary to gain understanding. They wanted to find out if she was “eating more than the 2,000 calories per day recommended for the average woman of her age and height.”
But beyond the food diary, the researchers decided to spy on Debbie as well using a scientific method called “doubly-labeled water” to get an accurate measurement of not only how many calories she consumes, but how much she burns.
The first four days of the reporting of food intake was a video diary. Here are the results:
Debbie’s reporting: “about 1,100 calories” a day.
Reality as per the doubly-labeled water: 3,000 calories a day.
She was off by almost a factor of three.
The next five days were done via a written diary, which the documentary asserts allows people to be more thorough, but still she underreported her caloric intake by 43%. The video then asserts that this is common, as on average people underreport their food intake by as much as 50%.
Why does this happen?
We forget about snacks and drinks, and sometimes believe that if something is healthy, the calories don’t count.
In other words, we’re not being honest with ourselves about how many calories we’re consuming. What’s more, we not being truthful about the number of calories we burn via physical activity.
In other, other words, we suck at math. And thus, two-thirds of the developed world has either overweight or obesity. We don’t mean to tell ourselves lies about our caloric intake, but we can’t seem to help it.
As someone who is very opposed to fat shaming of any kind, please don’t take this as such. I understand that this can be construed as me saying, “Stop sucking at math,” but that’s not what I’m trying to communicate.
The majority of the planet is bad at tracking caloric intake and burn. REALLY bad at it, so don’t feel as though it’s a personal failing if you’re part of this majority. Remember I am here in this with you - who can relate?
Accurate tracking is a tough skill to learn, especially in an environment where we’re constantly surrounded by hyper-yummy junk food, machines doing most of our work for us, and fancy, interesting things on electronic screens that lead us to sit for hours on end.
The solution is not an easy one to accept or to implement, and before telling you I must remind you that there are myriad methods in which to create a sustained caloric deficit. There are lots of diets and lots of ways to engage in more physical activity to burn more calories.
But through all of this, to lose weight, you must do this one thing:
You must be honest with yourself.
The words “brutally honest” can be a useful guide to helping you reduce caloric intake and increase expenditure. The reviews are positive.
Do you need to count calories? I don’t know.
Do you need to wear an activity monitor? Beats me.
Do you need to drink doubly-labeled water every day? Sounds expensive to get all the testing done.
Everyone is an individual, and this is a path that you mostly need to find on your own. I can’t prescribe a specific diet or exercise regimen, because one size does NOT fit all.
Instead, you need to follow basic healthy eating advice, increase your physical activity level, and find a way to be more honest with your self-tracking.
You need to know that people are bad at tracking. Almost all people. You need to keep this forefront in your mind and err on the high side with how many calories you believe you ate and drank, and the low side with what you think is your caloric burn.
Again, I’m not saying you actually need to count calories; I don’t. Well, not really. I have what I call “caloric awareness,” where I know how many calories are in most things, and I try to make wise decisions on a per meal basis.
Overall, I realise this is a pretty simplistic message: be honest with yourself. There are myriad causes to overweight and obesity, and some of them involve things like personal trauma, depression, genetics, financial pressures, social environment, stress, and work environment.
These are all things that may need to be addressed as potential root causes of overeating and under-moving.
But at the end of it all, if you understand just how bad most people are at food and exercise tracking, and you endeavour to not be bad at it by deciding not to engage in such self-deception, then you’re on the right path.
Don’t expect to be brilliant at it overnight. Like with anything, it’s a skill that needs to be developed over time.
Being honest with yourself takes practice. Work on it. A good place to start is just to... begin.